Until five years ago, picture me a modern day “Martha”. I busy myself in the kitchen distracted by preparations; always cleaning, preparing, cooking, and organizing. My do-it-all mentality gets on my husband’s nerves as I tend to the needs of our three children. I begin my day by looking at the calendar, making a to-do-list, starting two loads of laundry, cleaning the bathroom, and unloading the dishwasher all before breakfast. All through the Martha years, I go to church, pray often, meet with a small group to discuss Christian values, and even teach Sunday school.
I PUSHED THAT VOICE ASIDE
Yet, I didn’t fully grasp the one thing that was necessary. I heard a faint voice saying, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and bothered and anxious about so many things; but only one thing is necessary.” I pushed that voice aside for many years until one day I chose to listen.
BUSY MARTHA
Are you also a “Martha”? In the Bible, Martha busies herself cooking a meal for her guests, including Jesus. During the preparations, she becomes upset because her sister Mary should be helping her. Instead, sister Mary sits at the feet of Jesus, listening and learning from Him.
Martha harbors resentment and goes to Jesus. “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to do all the work by myself? Tell her then to help me.” Jesus replies to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and distracted by many things; there is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the better part, which will not be taken away from her” (Luke 10:38-42).
THE INVITATION TO COMPANIONSHIP
Jesus’ openly invites not only to Martha, but all of us. He asks us to worship first before we work. Joanna Weaver, author of “Having A Mary Heart in a Martha World” states, “In obedience to his invitation, we find the key to our longings, the secret to living beyond the daily pressures that would otherwise tear us apart. For as we learn what it means to choose the Better Part of intimacy with Christ, we begin to be changed.”
Weaver explains that our world may celebrate our accomplishments, but our God desires our companionship. Martha’s hurriedness in the kitchen made her lose sight of the intimacy of the living room. Opening her home did not mean she opened her heart. We do not need to prove our love to Jesus. When we serve Jesus, don’t miss the opportunity to know Jesus and how much he loves us.
MY SURRENDER
Then, my son Ryan was diagnosed with leukemia. At that point, five years ago, I completely understood the magnitude of what I was missing in my life. In August 2019, I fully surrendered myself to God and my new name became “Mary”. Mary, the sister of Martha, who worshipped at the feet of Jesus and humbly learned what is most important in life.
The morning before Ryan died, I watched my son’s chest rise and fall with labored breathing. His head had not left his pillow for days as his depleted energy made any movement difficult. My Mary heart waited for Jesus to come and take the suffering away for my dear son. At that moment, I witnessed the transforming power of God as Ryan sat straight up in bed with a force not of this world. His hands stretched outright ready to greet his heavenly Father. The gasp heard from his voice made me think that he was seeing the glory that was to be his shortly.
My itinerary for my life ahead is not mine to decide. I seek to humbly and sacrificially serve instead of allowing my achievements and to-do-list to take priority. By giving my life to God and submitting to His plan, my worries are cast aside. 1 Peter 5:7 states, “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” Do you also need to be renamed “Mary”?
