Ever wonder what happens when you walk into a room? You impact the climate of every room you are in. Do people tense up when you walk in? Do they clam up? Are they glad to see you? Afraid of you? Thrilled that you’re there? Is your spouse glad to see you, or does he or she worry you’ll just have one more thing to complain about when you get home? Many people have no idea how to honestly answer that question.
If you want to grow in emotional intelligence, though, you absolutely need to know what happens when you walk into the room. You need to become a student of how you impact others. So here’s the hack. Ask people what it’s like to be on the other side of you. Do it openly, and honestly. Don’t be defensive. Just listen. You’ll be surprised at what you learn.